Magic Dust

We don’t understand each other

Let’s put a little Magic Dust on that. Two people can both be reasonable and still be running on plans they were handed years apart.

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Writing · 9 min read

You don't need to recreate your parents' marriage

There is something beautiful about growing up watching a marriage that lasts. There is also a danger in allowing a role model to become a blueprint.

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What are my relationship patterns?

Fifteen questions about what you tend to do when you really care about someone. No email needed to see the result.

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The Check-In

The printable twin of the on-site check-in. Twenty questions, five rooms, four outcomes.

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The Check-In

Twenty questions about how things actually are right now. Three minutes, nobody watching, no right answers.

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The Red Flag, Green Flag Decoder

Ten patterns to take seriously, ten to build on, and five worth keeping an eye on.

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Do I have any relationship red flags?

Fifteen questions about the habits that show up when you are stressed, scared, angry or deeply attached. No email needed to see the result.

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Ten Lies You Were Told About Love

Ten things almost everyone is taught about love, and what is actually true instead.

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Free to read, nothing to enter, and short enough to finish over a cup of tea.

Writing · 8 min read

Before you fall in love, learn their story

When you're getting to know someone, there are the obvious questions. Then there are the ones we often don't ask until much later — sometimes after we've already built a life with the person.

Writing · 8 min read

You chose the person. But did you choose the same marriage?

Two people can be madly attracted to each other, laugh constantly, have similar values — and still be imagining two completely different relationships.

Writing · 5 min read

Why your friends aren't always the best people to ask for relationship advice

It's a familiar scenario. You're going through a rough patch in your relationship and instinctively turn to your closest friends or family for advice. After all, they know you well, care about you,…

Writing · 3 min read

The peacock in the relationship: when being seen becomes more important than seeing

A peacock is impossible to ignore. With its brilliant feathers, dramatic display, and commanding presence, it naturally draws attention. It is beautiful, captivating, and impossible to miss.

Writing · 9 min read

Your type might be getting in the way of compatibility

Some people have a very definite type. The trouble is that the picture you have always had of the person you would end up with is not the same thing as the person you can actually live with.

Writing · 9 min read

Love without self-abandonment

There is an idea about romantic love that sounds beautiful until you examine what it can ask people to give up: that if you really love someone, they become your whole world.

Writing · 7 min read

You want a husband or wife. But are you ready to be one?

There is a considerable difference between wanting to get married and actually being ready to be married, although we do not always distinguish between the two particularly well.

From the catalogue

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