Magic Dust
Nothing’s wrong — I just want more
Let’s put a little Magic Dust on that. The best time to work on a relationship is while it is going well. Almost nobody does it then.
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The Check-In
Twenty questions about how things actually are right now. Three minutes, nobody watching, no right answers.
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The Check-In
The printable twin of the on-site check-in. Twenty questions, five rooms, four outcomes.
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Ten Lies You Were Told About Love
Ten things almost everyone is taught about love, and what is actually true instead.
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What are my relationship patterns?
Fifteen questions about what you tend to do when you really care about someone. No email needed to see the result.
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What is it actually like to be in a relationship with you?
Your partner has an answer. These twenty-four questions might help you find yours. No email needed to see the result.
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Writing · 4 min read
Do you do these 10 things in your marriage?
10 timeless principles for a healthy, happy, and lasting marriage
Writing · 7 min read
You want a husband or wife. But are you ready to be one?
There is a considerable difference between wanting to get married and actually being ready to be married, although we do not always distinguish between the two particularly well.
Writing · 9 min read
Your type might be getting in the way of compatibility
Some people have a very definite type. The trouble is that the picture you have always had of the person you would end up with is not the same thing as the person you can actually live with.
Writing · 9 min read
Stop dating potential
Potential is seductive because it allows us to fall in love not only with the person standing in front of us, but with the person we can imagine them becoming.
Writing · 4 min read
What we can learn about love from a divorce lawyer
At first glance, it seems strange that one of the best people to teach us about healthy relationships is a divorce lawyer.
Writing · 8 min read
Before you fall in love, learn their story
When you're getting to know someone, there are the obvious questions. Then there are the ones we often don't ask until much later — sometimes after we've already built a life with the person.
Writing · 8 min read
You chose the person. But did you choose the same marriage?
Two people can be madly attracted to each other, laugh constantly, have similar values — and still be imagining two completely different relationships.
Writing · 9 min read
You don't need to recreate your parents' marriage
There is something beautiful about growing up watching a marriage that lasts. There is also a danger in allowing a role model to become a blueprint.
Writing · 8 min read
What does it actually feel like to be loved well?
There is a version of love we talk about constantly because it is easy to photograph. Some of the strongest signs of a good relationship never make it into the picture.
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