Affection Library
Most couples aren’t having a hundred arguments.
They’re having one, repeatedly.
A small library of practical, evidence-based guides for two people who want to stop having that argument — written warmly, without jargon, and without pretending love is a personality trait you either have or don’t.
Magic Dust
What’s going on in your relationship right now?
Pick whichever one sounds most like this week and we will open the right part of the library. Nothing is recorded, and there is no wrong answer.
Where to start
Five rooms
Twenty questions across five areas — how you handle heat, what you are built on, how things pass between you, how close you can stand to be, and why you are here at all. You get a straight answer about which one is taking the strain.
01
Heat
Keeping the temperature steady when it rises.
02
Foundations
Knowing what you are built on, and what you repeat.
03
Doors
How things pass between you.
04
Walls
Being close without losing your own shape.
05
Keys
Why you are here at all.
On loan
Four you can take today
Finished, free, and yours for an email address. No card, no trial, and you can unsubscribe from the bottom of the first one.
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The Check-In
The printable twin of the on-site check-in. Twenty questions, five rooms, four outcomes.
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Ten Lies You Were Told About Love
Ten things almost everyone is taught about love, and what is actually true instead.
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The Red Flag, Green Flag Decoder
Ten patterns to take seriously, ten to build on, and five worth keeping an eye on.
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The Seven-Day Reset
Seven days, one small thing each. You can do it alone or hand it to your partner.
The catalogue
On the shelf
Ebook · PDF + EPUB · 12 chapters
The House We Build
A practical guide to building love that lasts
Printable PDF · 3 pages
The Active Listening Tool
Printable PDF · 3 pages
Twenty Ways to Express Empathy
Printable PDF · 4 pages
The Emotional Availability Check
Seven daily emails · one small mission each
The 7-Day Reboot
First on the shelf
Volume one is being written
The first book is in the final draft. We are not taking pre-orders and we are not naming a date — but take the check-in and you will hear the day it is ready, with the first chapter to read before you decide anything.