Quizzes · Red flags

Do I have any relationship red flags?

Fifteen questions about the habits that show up when you are stressed, scared, angry or deeply attached. No email needed to see the result.

Nobody is perfect in relationships. Most of us have habits that can become difficult when we're stressed, scared, angry or deeply attached to someone. This quiz isn't about deciding whether you're a “good” or “bad” partner. It's about spotting the patterns that might be getting in your way.

Choose the answer that sounds most like what you actually do.

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Your partner tells you that something you did hurt them. What happens first?

I listen, even if I don't agree with every part of what they're saying. I immediately explain what I meant because I don't want them misunderstanding me. I feel attacked and start pointing out what they've done too. I feel awful and start apologising before I've even worked out whether I did anything wrong. I shut down because I need to get away from the intensity.

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