Magic Dust
There’s tension we keep avoiding
Let’s put a little Magic Dust on that. The conversation you keep walking past does not go anywhere. It waits, and it charges interest.
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Do I have any relationship red flags?
Fifteen questions about the habits that show up when you are stressed, scared, angry or deeply attached. No email needed to see the result.
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Free · PDF · 5 pages
The Red Flag, Green Flag Decoder
Ten patterns to take seriously, ten to build on, and five worth keeping an eye on.
Free · on this site · no email needed
What are my relationship patterns?
Fifteen questions about what you tend to do when you really care about someone. No email needed to see the result.
Free · on this site · no email needed
The Check-In
Twenty questions about how things actually are right now. Three minutes, nobody watching, no right answers.
Free · PDF · 5 pages
The Check-In
The printable twin of the on-site check-in. Twenty questions, five rooms, four outcomes.
Free · PDF · 7 pages
The Seven-Day Reset
Seven days, one small thing each. You can do it alone or hand it to your partner.
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Writing · 5 min read
Why your friends aren't always the best people to ask for relationship advice
It's a familiar scenario. You're going through a rough patch in your relationship and instinctively turn to your closest friends or family for advice. After all, they know you well, care about you,…
Writing · 9 min read
Stop dating potential
Potential is seductive because it allows us to fall in love not only with the person standing in front of us, but with the person we can imagine them becoming.
Writing · 8 min read
Before you fall in love, learn their story
When you're getting to know someone, there are the obvious questions. Then there are the ones we often don't ask until much later — sometimes after we've already built a life with the person.
Writing · 5 min read
The ebb and flow of relationships: why love has never been 50/50
Few ideas about relationships are as popular, or as misleading, as the belief that healthy partnerships should always be 50/50.
Writing · 4 min read
What we can learn about love from a divorce lawyer
At first glance, it seems strange that one of the best people to teach us about healthy relationships is a divorce lawyer.
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