Writing
Notes from the library
Short pieces about the ordinary mechanics of living with someone — what actually helps, what only sounds like it should, and why the same argument keeps coming back.
20 July 2026 · 7 min read
Don't lose yourself in the life you built
There is a particular kind of disappearing that can happen when you become a mother. It does not happen dramatically. It happens in tiny increments.
17 July 2026 · 4 min read
What we can learn about love from a divorce lawyer
At first glance, it seems strange that one of the best people to teach us about healthy relationships is a divorce lawyer.
13 July 2026 · 8 min read
You chose the person. But did you choose the same marriage?
Two people can be madly attracted to each other, laugh constantly, have similar values — and still be imagining two completely different relationships.
10 July 2026 · 5 min read
The ebb and flow of relationships: why love has never been 50/50
Few ideas about relationships are as popular, or as misleading, as the belief that healthy partnerships should always be 50/50.